“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your words are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.” – Psalm 139:13-15
This week’s thought was originally planned for last week, but when the Lord leads in a different direction, I’ve learned to readjust and go with it. He’s pretty good and flipping schedules like that. 😊 But here we are, ready to think on that four-letter L-word. Tina asked what it had to do with her situation, the Beatles sang it couldn’t be bought, and Mary J said she was searching for a real one (and boy did she say it!).
But that’s not the type of love I’m talking about. Out of the 7 types of love we can experience in our lifetime, the one that I’m led to share with you is philautia, or self-love. More akin to this (on the positive side) is self-esteem, self-worth. Some of the other forms of love have their challenges, yes, especially outside God’s design for us as women and men. We can do some real block-headed things for the passionate and playful love types. And we are the first to rush back to the Lord when the haze clears and the mess is exposed…well, most of us do that. There are some stubborn and stiff-necked folks who keep trying their way the same way and expect different results.
Still, self-love is important to understand, accept, and take care of. It requires our mental, emotional, and spiritual state to be healthy so it can be healthy. When it is operating well, the fiery darts of doubt and fear are extinguished long before they hit their mark. The cannon-fire of unworthiness is deflected by the love in the ultimate defensive shield, our heavenly Father. Excuse the poor grammar but can’t nobody tell us nothin’ when we walk and live in the knowledge of who and WHOSE we are.
Fam, this type of love is not dependent on how another person makes us feel special, wanted, or adored. It is not dependent on any external thing, be it situation or people. Philautia is about understanding and appreciating that God took the time out of all the awesome things He has done to create you and me. From the mole on my right cheek to the freckles on your nose; from his short waves to her long, straight hair; from our various abilities, talents, and gifts to our personalities and interesting little quirks- we are all fearfully and wonderfully made.
When we are at our best, we are wonderfully made. When we are at our worst, we are still wonderfully made. The Lord stitched every facet of our being in a way that makes us unique and yet perfectly fit in the amazing mosaic that is His family. Considering this fact, indulging the Enemy’s ploys to make us doubt our worth as defined by the Lord is not what we do. Accepting his lies of not being intelligent, attractive, and just plain awesome is not what we do. Thinking and speaking less of our literal God-made selves—and allowing others to do the same—is not what we do.
Please excuse me if I’m coming across a little annoyed, but Satan has jerked us around long enough on this thing. This really needs to be said.
Right now, someone is reading this posting, ensnared in a situation that drains the essence of who they really are and what they were created to become. Now is the time to speak life and love into them.
Now is the time to tell that man, “The Lord knew you when you were in your mother’s womb. He knows the good plans He has for you and hating yourself is not one of them. Be confident and assured that you have value, that you have worth.”
Now is the time to tell that woman, “Every good and perfect gift comes from the Lord. He made no mistake in creating you. Belittling yourself is not part of His design. Stand tall and walk boldly into your season. You’ve got this, because He’s got you.”
Now is the time to tell our own selves that the God who is loves and treasures us like no other. Our worth was determined by Him long ago, and there is no changing that fact today, tomorrow, or any point in the future. We matter to the Lord.
And that’s what matters.
Prayer: Dear Lord, thank You for Your transcending, transforming love. Thank You for creating us a little lower than the angels. Remind us now and always of how much You value us, so that we live that truth each day. Amen.